What your bridesmaid should pay for?

Bridesmaids’ Attire

Being a bridesmaid is pay-to-play, and ponying up for a bridesmaid's dress is expense number one. This purchase is covered by the bridesmaids, including if the bride requests a general style of shoe (like a nude pump or metallic sandal). But if you want your ‘maids to all wear the exact same shoes and accessories, you’re the one who should cover those costs.

Bridal Shower

The cost of the shower is covered by the hosts. If the bridal party is hosting, they should split the cost among themselves. If a relative of the bride, such as a grandmother or aunt, offers to serve as hostess, she will take on the costs—but bridesmaids should offer to chip in in some way, whether that is with money or by helping to cook or set up. FYI, bridesmaids are expected to bring gifts to the bridal shower, separate from gifts purchased for the wedding.

Bachelorette Party

For one night out, the bridal party should split any games or pre-purchased items evenly. Then all of the guests should split the evening’s costs among them, including food, drinks, entertainment, and transportation for the night. For a single night event, the bride should not pay for any of her bill! If you’re going away for the weekend, there is a little more gray area. Each attendee should cover the cost of her own travel (including the bride) and should pay for her accommodations individually too. The bridal party should split the cost of any favors, T-shirts, or other gifts for the attendees. The weekend’s food and activities should be split as though it were any other girl’s weekend, except for the “big night out,” which should follow the rules above—meaning that’s the night when the bride doesn’t pay.

Hair and Makeup

This wedding-day cost also has some fuzzy lines. If the bride requires that every member of her bridal party have her hair and makeup done by the same artists, the bride should cover the costs (including tip). Prices will vary based on the services each ‘maid wants or needs. If having hair and makeup done is optional, the bridesmaids should pay for whatever services they opt into themselves.

Wedding Travel and Hotel Rooms

Unless you have space for everyone to stay, your ‘maids should cover their own accommodations like any other guest. They are also expected to pay for their own travel. Remind them to book early for better deals, as well as to take advantage of your room block for more affordable lodging. If they’re cost conscious, encourage them to share rooms to keep the prices down.


Yes, bridesmaids still need to purchase gifts for both the bridal shower and the wedding. Consider your overall gift budget, then allocate more than 50 percent for the wedding gift, using the remaining funds for the bridal shower gift. If bridesmaids have a smaller budget to work with, they can also join forces to get the couple one nicer group gift.

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